In the wake of the deaths of Alton Sterling, Delrawn Small, Philando Castile, and the five Dallas police officers, my Facebook feed (my own posts included) has been a constant stream of feelings and arguments and opinions surrounding these deaths. Black lives matter, all lives matter, blue lives matter, ‘protests don’t work’, ‘we have to get rid of labels’, ‘we are all one’, and so on. It’s all so emotional and loaded because, obviously, lives are being taken. And because being faced with having to advocate for yourself or someone or some group to ‘matter’, is terrifying.
Looking back in history I can imagine this argument has happened many times before. When abolitionists argued that slaves deserved freedom, anti abolitionists like James Henry Hammond retorted ‘Sir, I do firmly believe, domestic slavery, regulated as ours is, produces the highest toned, the purest, best organization of society that has ever existed on the face of this earth.’ And when civil rights activists in the 1960s fought for voting rights and for desegregation, people like George C Wallace shouted back ‘A racist is one who despises someone because of his color, and an Alabama segregationist is one who conscientiously believes that it is in the best interest of Negro and white to have a separate education and social order.’ To sum it up, it went like this: ‘slaves should be free!’- ‘everyone should be free!’, ‘black people deserve civil rights!’- ‘everyone deserves civil rights!’, ‘Black Lives Matter!’- ‘All Lives Matter!’ In the roughly 100 or so years from the end of slavery to the civil rights era to now with the black lives matter movement era, the stakes are the same, only the context has changed, and the common thread through all those years is fear. Fear of discomfort, fear of change, fear of admitting white privilege is real, fear of losing white privilege, fear of black people, fear of acknowledging history.
I don’t want to overload this with facts and statistics and recorded historical truth, because that doesn’t seem to convince everyone of the current reality. But this passage from http://www.encyclopedia.com/topic/lynching.aspx is worth noting: ‘Part of the appeal of groups such as the Ku Klux Klan was their white supremacy focus. But these groups also played on the fears of Southern whites—that blacks would be able to compete with them for jobs, that blacks could run for political office, and even that blacks could rebel against whites. Lynchings were carried out because of these fears. Whites believed that lynchings would terrorize blacks into remaining subservient while allowing whites to regain their sense of status…A partial list of “crimes” that prompted lynch mobs during these years underscores a chilling disregard for life: gambling, quarreling, arguing with a white man, attempting to vote, unruly remarks, demanding respect, and “acting suspiciously.”…One of the most common crimes answered by lynch mobs was rape—particularly the rape of a white woman by a black man. Often, all that a black man had to do to be accused of rape was to speak to a white woman or ask her out. Lynchers justified their actions by saying that they needed to protect women from dangerous men.’
Something feels familiar about this, doesn’t it? I can’t help but assume this same narrative of ‘the dangerous black man’ affected the trigger finger of the killers of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile. It most definitely played a powerful role in the death of Trayvon Martin and Tamir Rice, innocent boys like the so many innocent children who were lynched in our nations past.
When I hear people argue ‘All Lives Matter’, I hear that same fear. Fear of losing the comforts that come with not being a person of color, fear that equality will mean everyone is as vulnerable as a person of color is and has always been in the history of our country. All Lives Matter was born as a response to Black Lives Matter, often shouted after the death of a police officer, referencing the BLM efforts advocating police reform. I understand the desire to demand a life matter after a life is lost. But the difference in the context of these movements makes them totally irrelevant to each other.
Before I explain what I mean, let me say that I have the utmost respect for the job of a police officer and for the lives of the officers lost in Dallas this past week. It takes courage to be willing to put yourself in danger for the betterment of your community, and I believe most cops are not like the ones in the videos we are bombarded with these days. But the crux of it is, they choose it and are compensated for choosing it, and are in a position of authority. And if they’re no longer willing to take on the noble job, they can choose not to. They have power over their vulnerability. Juxtaposing that with the BLM movements efforts for equal treatment of people of color, it makes no sense. The value of the lives of police officers and ‘All Lives’ has never, in our US history, been questioned. But clearly, in our US history, Black Lives have.
So when people argue ‘All Lives Matter’ all I can hear is ‘I’m afraid that this will affect my life in a negative way, because history has allowed me to have an easier life sometimes, at the cost of non whites’, as seen in times of slavery and segregation. It’s fear that life will change if we have to acknowledge the truth of what is happening now. When gun rights advocates are silent in the wake of Philando Castiles death- him being a registered gun owner, permitted to carry- I hear that fear in their silence. If they speak up for Philando, equality might mean they could soon become as vulnerable as he was while living as a law abiding, gun carrying citizen, loved by coworkers and the many children he cared for, a family man.
When people argue ‘no more labels, labels are bad!’ I hear that fear, fear in acknowledging the reality of life for black people/ people of color in the US, fear of acknowledging that our own labels might mean privilege. Because what does that mean, really? We aren’t actually ‘labels’, we are different people. We have differences. And because of our differences we have different experiences, horrible things happen because of our differences. Acknowledging our differences rather than saying ‘do away with our labels and we’ll all be okay!’ would mean acknowledging that some differences make lives easier and some make lives much harder. To advocate no labels is to white wash the bad parts of our history, and to say, in a way, ‘I understand your experience better than you, and I know better than you how to change things.’ A better effort would be to say ‘we are different, our lives are shaped by our differences, but despite our differences, I care for you and will be an advocate for you if necessary.’ Right now, it is necessary for us to advocate for people of color. It is necessary to put aside our desire to say ‘we matter too!’ because that’s not in question right now. It is necessary right now to risk, at the most minimal, our comfort.